... so little time.
I wa sitting at dance class tonight talking to one if the other moms. She is a teacher and apparently there was an incident at one of the schools. Since my kids no longer go to public school, I was not privy to the story.
Apparently, at the middle school next to the elementary that the big girl attended in first grade, a girl performed oral sex an a boy. Or maybe more than one. I'm not really sure. I went into a little bit of shock. The boys surrounded the girl so that the teachers wouldn't see. Somebody found out. But in the big picture, we are talking about 11-13 year olds. What the hell is going on? How bad do things have to get before people wake up from their comas and get a grip on their children?
When did working and having things over shadow the importance of raising our children to have a sense of self worth and knowing that giving a blow job in middle school might make you popular, but it will also make you a slut? Where are her parents? Where is the safe place that she can go to open her mind and not her mouth? What the hell is happening and what is going to happen to our future with these types of children running our country? Where did the sense of entitlement come from?
When Paris Hilton becomes a role model, do we not know that our country is in critical condition? And Jessica Simpson? I am embarrased that she and President Bush are from Texas. I moved to Florida so that I wouldn't live in a Bush run state. Little did I know that his brother Jeb would become the governor of Florida. But Jeb actually did some really good things for this state. He did some not good things as well, but I digress. Where have the morals and values gone?
And the part that is the most frightening: there have been five rapes at that school. We are talking about a middle school, not high school or college. It would be bad enough at those schools, but middle school. And people wonder why I don't want my kids in public school. Well, there's one reason, or five.
When did our country become "all about me"? And I know that not everybody is like that. But go to the mall and tell me that you can only count on one hand the number of girls wearing clothes that are too tight, too low cut, too whatever for their age. I saw it at the high school football game that we went to. I just wanted to tell them that could cover up. If a boy doesn't respect you for your mind and then your body, he is exactly that: a boy. Save some of your self respect.
I am trying so hard to raise my daughters to respect themselves and it is not easy in today's society. I am trying to raise my son to respect women, not slobber all over them. But we need that for all of our youth today. I am hoping, and praying, that this country will somehow get back on track to realize what is important. And it isn't how much leg you have showing or anything else. It should be about the size of your brain.
2 comments:
Oh, jeez....how terrible. It is a real shame that this girl didn't have enough of what? Self-esteem? Self-worth? I guess we won't know her story, but surely she must realize that she's got the big letter 'S' branded on her now. To see it from a bigger perspective, it is alarming, to say the least, that young people are becoming so sexually active at such a young age. What concerns me more is that they are doing this apparently without any kind of guidance or awareness of the associated risks that go beyond the stigma of being forever known as that girl who blew a guy in front of everyone. Even though the girl couldn't have gotten pregnant through just oral sex, she could have picked up all kinds of nasty things, and is it really such a big step from oral sex to full intercourse? Obviously, focusing on abstinence in schools is a resounding failure.
It's quite easy for me to say this, since I don't have kids, but here goes. A good defense is a good offense, and I think more parents need to do what you're doing with your kids. You have to communicate with them, and that doesn't mean yelling and waving a belt, or delivering lectures. You have to talk to them. Personally, I think it's dangerous now for parents to stick their heads in the sand about sex. You have to share that information with your kids, regardless of how embarrassed you may be (or they may be) to discuss it.
And five rapes at that middle school? What the hell is going on? What had administration or law enforcement said or done about it?
As for the sense of entitlement, I'm not sure where that came from. I think it was accompanied by the lack of consideration. But I really don't think that all young people are bad. There are parents who have been strong influences - in a good sense - and I have been treated very politely by many young people.
I don't think the world is about to come to an end. Remember that our generation was often seen as disrespectful and selfish. I think many of us (certainly not all of us) turned out okay.
Love you,
Scott
Every night we sit at our dining table and have dinner as a family. Whether we have sandwiches, take out, or a seven course meal, we have it together. Our hope is that we are fostering a line of communication regarding issues that may come up. I feel like I am closer to my kids than I have ever been. I really hope that as they get older, they realize that they can talk about anything with us.
It worries me that I heard nothing in the newspaper or on the news about this, but had to hear this from a teacher. I do not even know if the police became involved in any of the situations.
There are so many good people and good kids out there, but once again, one bad apple spoils the bunch. The stories we hear could be just that, just stories. But what if they aren't?
The big girl and I have had the sex talk, and the talk about where people are allowed to touch you and how they are allowed to touch you. In her third grade class, she had a boy that would not quit touching her butt one day. I asked if she told her teacher and she said no. So I did. I don't know what happened to the boy, but she never said anything more about it. Shame on me for dropping that ball.
We know some really great kids that go to public schools and some not so great ones that home school, so there isn't really a pattern except involvement. Who is involved in the childs life and how is a big factor.
There are several of us that turned out better than I thought we would. I hope that positive changes continue through the generations.
Love you,
Cristy
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